Dating for 10 year olds
My experience with my two boys (one grown, one in college) is that at the age of your son "going out" is more of a status thing at school than actually going anywhere.
Both of my boys were "going out" with girls at different times, but it didn't involve anything other than phone calls (monitored by us) and talking at school until they were in high school.
Hi C., He sounds pretty grown up for an 11 year old boy.
Even though he likes girls he is not allowed to touch anywhere inappropriate at that age.
I was so naive that I couldn't imagine doing anything like that. Truthfully, I doubt if "everyone" is going out with someone.
Needless to say, my mom decided I wasn't going to be friends with this girl any longer. Kids your sons age think that one to three people means "everyone".
If his friends are doing that then he may need to find a wider more diverse group to hang with. I have a friend who has 2 daughters that are just about my sons ages. He can meet a group of frineds at the movies that include girls, but not a one on one thing.
She would tell me since they were in 6th grade that someone was "going out" with someone. Call it overprotective, but I remember having a friend who got pregnant at 14.
He had some things to say that really effected one of my boys.
I have an 11 year old boy who's very interested in girls.
I have always been as open & honest with him in regards to anything he has ever wanted to ask.
There is absolutely no need for alone time or unsupervised communication at this age!!!
One suggestion is that you have your husband have a man-to-man talk with him about getting ready to be a good husband by learning how to treat a girl.
He can even tell him he is teaching him what he needs to know for when it's time to date: holding your chair at dinnertime, helping you on with you coat, holding the door open for you and other women, grooming, hygine, safty issues, etc. Also, it's time to communicate with him what your beliefs are about sex.